Friday, October 15, 2010

Are you down with the swirl?

You are joining this post mid-thought so I beg your forgiveness now.

After dinner last night, a song hit the radio (I can't remember the title) and on the lyrics was about good love being hard to find. I made some smart-alec comment to The Fella about it being true which lead to a convo about our meeting/dating/etc. He said something to me that I've been chewing on ever since.  Before we met, he swore off Black women.

What? Really?  Yes.

But he's not the only one to say this to me in the recent past.  A girlfriend of mine said the same - she's done with Black men. Cool, more for me! But...

Yo, yo, yo - what's up with dissing your own folks. Like Rodney King said - can't we all just get along?

I understand when relationships go sour or folks just aint giving you the time of day, you may take a break, regroup or reflect.  But is that cause for you to swear off that entire race of women/men?  I can see that if you aren't being fulfilled in your opposite relationship, regardless of skin tone, that you wake up one day and swear off men (or women) and move towards a same-sex relationship. If that's rewarding - booyah! You hit the love jackpot.

Love knows no boundaries, skin tone, eye color, hair color, shoe size or dress size. So saying you won't date someone based solely on their race because you had a bad experience once, twice, a bajillon times only hampers you from finding the romance of a lifetime.

Funny thing is that The Fella checked out my online profile first. So I guess Black women weren't totally off his radar. Lucky for him, I thought he was Italian as I was going through an international men phase! I'm the EEOC of love affairs!


The Merry said...

I don't get that.

I can see swearing off Black women... who are high-maintenance and make your life a misery. But the sentence doesn't make sense without that last part. You'd miss out on all the positive, kind, considerate ones... who write fun blogs... ;)

Anonymous said...

In the end we met for a reason... And I am blessed for it!!!


Carli said...

I agree you should never swear off an entire race of people because you have a bad experience or even bad experiences. We as black women come in all flavors, and you might just miss the one you like that you never even knew existed. :-)

Anonymous said...

I think people who swear off ANYTHING based on one bad experience are just setting themselves up to miss out.

Savvy Gal said...

I agree with Sara. : )